The lessons I learned being rejected from RewardStyle
Why I started blogging
Hey everyone! Lately, I’ve been on this kick writing about my insecurities to show you that it’s not all pretty flowers and awesome parties. I just want to be real with you so that I can show you the other side. When I first started this blog in late December it was to fill a void that had been left when I graduated from grad school. I had all this free time and anxious energy but no outlet. I knew I loved writing and that’s what I wanted to do. But what I didn’t know, was that writing is only one aspect of the bigger picture of blogging. I never had any intentions of monetizing my blog or my Instagram however, as I went along, I saw that it was the next logical step.
What is RewardStyle and why did I care?
It almost feels that everyone who’s anyone in the blogger world especially fashion is a RewardStyle member. RewardStyle operates LIKEtoKNOW.it which is a social media platform that allows influencers to link their clothing items as shoppable widgets for the convenience of the consumer. Each time someone clicks on the unique URL, that influencer receives a small commission.
If you’re a blogger, then you know the importance of being on the platform. If you’re a consumer, you know how awesome LTK is to shop your favorite looks effortlessly. I thought if I wanted to increase my traffic and increase my reach, I would have to be on it too. I was reading tons of advice about acceptance, exclusivity, and expectations for a candidate.
Applying to RewardStyle
Just applying changed everything for me. I spent tireless hours trying to make my feed cohesive, any photo that got low engagement got archived never to be seen again. Days spent wondering if I was pretty enough, artistic enough, had good enough style to be part of what seemed like an elite society. I held myself to this stupid high standard of excellence. After applying, I checked my email countless times a day with a wave of relief washing over me every time I didn’t see an email back. No news was good news right?!
Being Rejected from RewardStyle
It wasn’t until a week later that I realized it had been sitting in my spam folder for a week. That cold hard rejection I had been fearing was staring me dead in the face and I was devastated. If I’m being honest with you, I kinda let it destroy me inside. All of my insecurities were painted in black and white and as I crawled into my husband’s arms and told him I’m not pretty enough, people don’t like me, I just want them to like me I felt just like I did in high school.
Looking back, it seems really silly how hard I took the news. But when you’re programmed to think every small blip on the radar is a massive catastrophe, that’s how everything feels. Now looking back, I see that rejection can be a blessing in disguise. So without further ado here are the things I learned about myself being rejected by RewardStyle.
Lessons I learned from being rejected
- I still have a lot of work to do in the self-love department. I know I get on Insta stories and get on my blog and preach self-love but I’m finding I’m not really practicing what I preach. It’s so easy for me to look at rejection, low engagement, not enough likes and think there’s something inherently ugly about who I am. If you ever feel that way, just know, you’re not alone. We all struggle with it and everyone should try to be more transparent about just how detrimental it can be to young adults and those with already fragile self-esteem, I included.
- Create content that you enjoy and it won’t feel like work. This is a big lesson for me! I tried to fit myself into this box of what I knew bloggers to be like and what I knew my audience to care for. Creating wasn’t making me happy and I felt so demotivated that I just wanted to quit. I did what “they” wanted but now I do what I want and it feels liberating. When I get the opportunity to sit down each day, enjoying writing and enjoying engaging, that is a win in my book! If you’re feeling fed up with creating or just feeling totally spent creatively take some time for yourself. Ask if you’re really doing it for you or are you doing it for someone else. If it’s the latter, find your way back to your true creative self.
- Sometimes rejection can be a blessing. This is going to be a really hard lesson for a lot of people, I included. Rejection sucks. Whether it’s in your personal life or professional life but I’d say, trust the process. Feeling sh*tty about it is only temporary. Maybe that person wasn’t right for you and maybe that career would have stifled your true passion. Be patient and kind and always listen to your heart. You may just find, the best is yet to come!
To all my beautiful losers and rejects
Reflecting on how I feel about my rejection now, I feel like the amount of pressure and stress I put on myself to be who I thought people wanted me to be was stupid. When I first got rejected, I felt shame, embarrassment, plainly I felt like a failure. I was ready to throw in the towel on this blog. Do Not Resuscitate. But I’m so glad I didn’t and I found my voice not through all my wins but my struggles instead.
So to all the other rejects and losers like me, hold your heads high. Never give up on things you’re passionate about just because you don’t think or look like everybody else. Because you are important and you have a unique story to tell. Do you have a story about rejection? I’d love to hear it and how you coped and even what you learned!