New Year, Same Me? Why I’m not making a New Year’s resolution and you shouldn’t either
As 2017 comes to an end, we start reflecting on all the good and bad times. We think about new beginnings like births and weddings, and endings like breakups and deaths. Determined to not repeat our sorted history, we plan out what our goals are for the future, aka the dreaded New Year’s Resolution. If you’ve ever made one then you know that you’ll be uber motivated to follow through until about mid-February and then that’s where the buck pretty much stops.
If you don’t believe this is true, just head to your local gym around the first week of January. Caution, you may notice your luck in finding the ideal parking spot has diminished and your cycling class is more full than usual. This is not a coincidence! This is the ever-optimistic, New Year’s resolution at work. People who have communicated to themselves and others that this is the year to put down the cheeseburger and pick up the dumbbells. New Year’s resolutions are often lofty goals, short-sighted, and lack of realistic expectations. This is why a few months in, we are back to binging on cheese fries and Netflix and we’ve either discontinued our gym memberships or, just guiltily let the membership key card sit on our key ring because we don’t want to have that awkward cancellation conversation at the front desk.
We’re all guilty of it
I’m as guilty of this as pretty much anyone else. I’ve made lots of unkept promises to myself about the ways that I was going to improve and seen another year pass, new year, same me. That’s why this year I’m not making a New Year’s Resolution, and you shouldn’t either. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying to not have goals and expectations for your future. Being directionless in life is not the way to go. I’m just saying don’t call it a, New Year’s Resolution because once you do, you’re pretty much dooming yourself from the start.
How you can reach your goals
I truly believe that we are all capable of reaching our goals but, we must not be setting ourselves up for failure by setting goals into the next year. As the eternal pessimist, my goal is to find ways to find more positivity in all situations. Here are some actionable ways right now that you can reach your goals and how I am going to reach mine:
1. Take it one day at a time.
Set daily goals instead of yearly ones and make expectations reasonable. If you are a writer, then set to write every day, doesn’t have to be a novel just has to be something. To get healthier then, start walking 30 min a day or change out your soda for water. If your goal is to become a better leader, sign up for that class. Do something, however small every day to change. Starting is always the first step towards reaching your goals.
2. Don’t get discouraged, change can be slow
I think the major reason that people give up on their New Year’s Resolution is that they don’t see anything changing or improving. Things take time, do not get discouraged. No one was a success overnight and everything takes patience and practice. You’re not going to be Tchaikovsky after one piano lesson and, you’re not going to lose 30 lbs after one salad, but keep after your goals. Also, even if a change isn’t visible, it doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.
3. Celebrate victories daily
We are all, myself included so self-critical. We admonish ourselves when we’ve done wrong but, we forget to praise ourselves when we’ve done something right. Find a way to celebrate your victories every day. Did you make it to the gym today? Good job! Did you nail a presentation at work? Terrific! Did you make a rocking soufflé? Yass Queen! Did you manage to spend one day with your toddler without screaming? Mom of the year!
Become a boss babe
Find something you have been wanting, and make 2018 the year you go after it by hitting small daily goals, being persistent, celebrating your wins and practicing self-care when you feel like all you’re doing is losing. Stop making resolutions, and start slamming goals! Trust in yourself, take no BS, and become the boss babe you were born to be! Tell me what your goals are and how you plan on going after them and if you want to learn more about my blog you can check it here!
Rosé & Ruffles